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Writer's Block: Critical mass
Apr. 9th, 2010 04:19 am[Error: unknown template qotd]
A number of factors come into this, such as how I feel about myself at the time, how the criticism is delivered, etc.
All in all, I'm much, much better than I used to be.
The majority of my early life memories involve being 'criticised' in one way or another and, believe me, it wasn't the kind of criticism you questioned unless you wanted to be 'criticised' some more.
For many years after that, every time someone suggested, for instance, a better way of doing or approaching something, however tactfully, all I heard was: "You're a useless disappointment!" Of course, I was conditioned to shut up and take it - so I did. I would clam up and retreat into my shell (and shut the critic out of my life if I could).
It has taken many years for me to treat a criticism as an opportunity for learning and discussion.
A number of factors come into this, such as how I feel about myself at the time, how the criticism is delivered, etc.
All in all, I'm much, much better than I used to be.
The majority of my early life memories involve being 'criticised' in one way or another and, believe me, it wasn't the kind of criticism you questioned unless you wanted to be 'criticised' some more.
For many years after that, every time someone suggested, for instance, a better way of doing or approaching something, however tactfully, all I heard was: "You're a useless disappointment!" Of course, I was conditioned to shut up and take it - so I did. I would clam up and retreat into my shell (and shut the critic out of my life if I could).
It has taken many years for me to treat a criticism as an opportunity for learning and discussion.
